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About the Author

Elizabeth Atlas

My Story…

My husband was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder at age 40, one year before I met him. (He’s now 55.) Prior to that, I had never known anyone with mental illness (who goes around talking about it?) and there was no evidence of it in my family (did you know there’s a genetic component?)

I spent 3 years in denial, 5 years in therapy, 7 years in intense research to “figure this illness out” and 13 years doubting myself and beating myself up, knowing that if I could be a better wife, then…

…You fill in the blank.

If you’re like me, you probably already have. Despite mountains of reading, exhaustive web searches, many support groups and discussions with my husband, I always felt terribly alone in my struggle.

Where were the other husbands and wives of Bipolar spouses??? I never met any. I never read about them. There were only 2 or 3 in my support groups. And they weren’t interested in forming a “band of brothers.” I felt totally isolated and helpless.

Albert Einstein said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Al was a very wise man. So I decided to try a new approach. And it worked for me! When I say “worked,” it didn’t solve my husband’s bipolar disorder. But it saved ME!

There is only ONE ANSWER for saving people like us who are married to mania.

I identify and explain all the options in my book. In the “Married To Mania” E-book or printed copy (your choice), I give you a plan to grab back control of your life. You’ll learn concrete ideas for handling unexpected mood swings, uncontrollable outbursts of anger, inevitable guilt and remorse (yours and theirs), and the devastating emotions you’ll have when you realize that the life partner you’ve chosen is no longer the person you married.

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what you will learn from this wonderful book

This book is about how to find your footing with a bipolar husband or bipolar wife and preserve your sanity in a marriage or relationship that’s built on quicksand. Your bipolar husband or bipolar wife may make you feel that everyday is a new dawn. Deep down you know nothing in your past has prepared you for what will happen in your bipolar marriage today, tomorrow or next year.

It’s a given: You love your bipolar wife or bipolar husband very much. “Bipolar” is not one of the top 10 adjectives you use to describe the love-of-your-life to other people. “Bipolar Disorder” may not even be in the top 100!

But if you’re like me, “bipolar disorder” is on your mind all the time. Your bipolar radar flashes when you second guess your bipolar husband’s financial decision making. Your bipolar radar arms when your bipolar wife drowns you in love and affection…because you know, very soon, you’ll be hunkered down protecting yourself from a painful verbal assault and threats of divorce.

Many times I diagnosed my own condition as PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). But it wasn’t “Post.” It is ongoing. So I decided to “stop the madness” on my part and learn how to “fish or cut bait.”
I learned how to handle “my problem” of how to be married to a bipolar husband. Then I wrote a book to help other husbands, wives and partners, married to Bipolar Disorder (yes, it does seem that way most of the time!), who are caught in the same love/chaos/trauma drama I was in.

This is the book you’ll read when you’ve already read the hundreds of other websites, books and newsletters, attended all the bipolar support groups and workshops and exhausted the patience of your friends and family – and you still don’t have answers for YOU about the best way to be married to a bipolar husband or a bipolar wife.

Here Are Just a Few of the Questions My Readers Have Asked Me About Marriage to a Bipolar Husband or BiPolar Wife (…And My Response!)

Question: “Why do their moods change to where you absolutely do not believe they love you and you wonder whether or not they’re even capable of love?”

Question: “We have raging arguments and we’re not very close. How can I get him to understand and accept that he has a problem and go get help?”

Question: “Nine months after I divorced my bipolar husband, he killed himself by hanging. He was sober and this ‘depressed’ cycle wasn’t different from hundreds of others he’d been through–even when he was off his medication. How could I have known?”

Think about it: Haven’t you already done everything you could think of plus more, to create a happy marriage to your bipolar spouse?

Your in-laws think you’re an angel, your friends think you’re nuts. You don’t know what to believe anymore but you know something’s broken and needs to be fixed. NOW. TODAY.

The only thing left is to take some of that good lovin’ you’ve been dishing out, and spend it on yourself. “Married To Mania” Is the owner’s manual on “How To Take Care of You” when you’re married to a bipolar husband or bipolar wife!


Let me Repeat: The chaos in your relationship is not your fault. When you love a bipolar husband or bipolar wife, your relationship is not on a level playing field with other loving relationships or marriages you’ve admired.

The relationship problem-solving skills that you learned from your relationship role models: your parents, your friends–even TV couples like “Lucy and Ricky” don’t work in your marriage. Those relationships–yes, even the fantasy TV storylines (!)–will never have the same roadblocks and heartaches that you tackle every single day of your life with a bipolar husband or bipolar wife.

How much do you REALLY know about Marriage To a Bipolar Spouse? Even if you’ve read a few books, surfed online and gone to a few support groups, you are no match for your bipolar husband or bipolar wife. In fact, you are at a tremendous disadvantage.

You Are in Bipolar Psychology “Kindergarten”. Your bipolar husband or bipolar wife has a “PhD” in Bipolar Disorder. This “degree” may not help him find a “cure” or steer him toward acceptance of his illness, but he’s been through a lifetime of mental machinations that you will never understand or keep pace with. It’s downright exhausting!

Here Are the Facts:

1. The divorce rate is 2 to 3 times higher for families with mental illness than in the general population (which is already 50% and rising!).

2. 60% of Bi polars have drug, alcohol substance abuse problems or other addictions like internet pornography.

3. 1 in 6 of those with Bipolar Disorder commit suicide.

As much as you may love your bipolar husband or bipolar wife, your future will be seriously altered by having this person in your life. Whether you decide to stay in your relationship, or cut the ties and move on, you must base your decision on facts, not emotions. And that’s exactly what I’ll show you how to do in “Married To Mania.”?How many times have you asked yourself these questions?

    – What can I do to make our relationship less stressful?
    – Will he ever get better?
    – Will she ever be able to stop taking her medicine?
    – Why can’t I convince him to trust me?
    – Will I ever be able to trust him?
    – Why is he so hard on everyone around him who loves him?
    – How can I predict when her mood swings will occur?
    – How can I protect my children?
    – Should I marry my bipolar girlfriend/boyfriend?
    – Should I divorce my bipolar husband?
    – I love him. Is there any hope for us?

“Married To Mania” lays out more than 15 proven concepts you’ll want to read or listen to over and over again so you can practice new behaviors that I guarantee will make your life more livable–regardless of whether you stay with your bipolar partner or leave him. (I say “him,” but these strategies are for any spouse or significant other: husband or wife, girlfriend or boyfriend of a bipolar partner.)

My book, “Married To Mania” and the bipolar information it covers is for anyone who cares so much about a sick bipolar husband or bipolar wife that they’re putting their own mental health and well-being at risk. If you’re reading this website, that means YOU! So…

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Reader Messages

the most inspiring testimonials from our readers

M.P., Indiana

M.P., Indiana

Thank you for the book. I just downloaded it, and I know from reading the forward that I have reached a resource I have been unable to find elsewhere for coping for life with my BP wife.I am on page 79 of your book. It’s like looking in a mirror. I’ve never met anyone else going through these same issues-it certainly is encouraging to feel like I’m not the only one in this boat!

Joanne Wolf Small, M.S.W.

“The most significant learning that psychotherapists like me receive comes from the personal experiences of those individuals who have lived it. In “Married to Mania,” author Elizabeth Atlas does just that. Her book is rich in conveying the critical issues that real people face when coping with Bipolar Disorder. She provides a much needed perspective plus practical advice, hope and help for spouses coping with a partner’s mental illness. I strongly recommend this book!

Joanne Wolf Small, M.S.W.
Ruth, Wyoming

Ruth, Wyoming

I was looking for ways my son could cope with being married to a bipolar person. This book answered many questions. My son hopes to use some of the suggestions the author names. I’m happy I found this book on the Internet, and I want everyone to read it!



I have been where you are now. Searching for answers but never really finding the ones that will help you understand or deal realistically with the situation of marriage or a relationship to someone with bipolar disorder. I know you don’t want to spend more time and money if this book turns out to be another dead-end that makes you feel even more alone and un-helped. So I offer you this guarantee. If for any reason “Married To Mania” is not what you were looking for, if it does not meet your standards for quality information, if it does not help you lighten the emotional load you’re carrying being married to a bipolar husband or a bipolar wife or if it doesn’t assist you in making tough decisions, just let me know, and I’ll give you a 100% refund on your purchase. I will not ask you to explain yourself to justify your refund. (You do not need anymore stress in your life! I am here to bring enlightenment, not add to your burden.)


With a simple request, I’ll refund 100% of your purchase price for up to 1 year after your purchase date. I promise. How can I offer such a generous return policy? Because hundreds of people in horrible emotional pain have already read my book, and I’ve only issued a handful of refunds. (I don’t ask why.) And I have received the most appreciative emails from readers of this book (along with lots of tears and very sad stories.) So I know my information has helped husbands, wives, partners, fiancees who were exactly where I was being married to a bipolar husband without any resources. Why wait one second more? Why continue to suffer in silence when the vital information you want is so easily accessible as soon as you place your order?


And I have 3 Bonus Gifts for you, too!

BONUS #1: FREE SHIPPING when you purchase the “Married To Mania” Bundle. (The Bundle includes the instant downloadable e-book and the hard-copy printed book will be mailed to you so you can flag pages, highlight important passages and rip out the checklists)

BONUS #2: “The Partner’s Definitive Guide To a Bipolar Disorder Vocabulary” ($29 Value) This is a must-have resource to learn the proper words to identify side effects, medications and episode symptoms so you can talk intelligently with the psychiatrists and mental health professionals. It’s just one weapon in your arsenal to help you combat what I call the “Medical Industrial Complex” who are DECIDEDLY NOT on your side.

BONUS #3: “The Spouse’s Bi Polar Disorder Million Dollar Rolodex,” (Priceless!) a compendium of organizations, publications, articles, websites and books citing all the latest research in psychiatry, psychology and family therapy on Bipolar Disorder. It includes a special section on self-help resources for spouses (not the touchy-feely kind…the real action-plan kind that can help you stay sane and functional and–dare we say it–thrive in your marriage to mania.)

* The term “jump the shark” refers to that defining moment when you know that your relationship has reached its peak. It’s the instant you know–from now on–it’s all down hill and out of your control, and things will never be the same. The phrase actually comes from knowing the episode when your favorite TV show went bad, but the concept fits perfectly for potentially doomed relationships, too.