Comments on: Why Is Bipolar Marriage Help Always About the Bipolar Husband or Wife? http://www.marriedtomania.com/why-is-bipolar-marriage-help-always-about-the-bipolar-husband-or-wife Help with a Bipolar Husband or Bipolar Wife Fri, 09 Dec 2011 14:31:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Elizabeth Atlas http://www.marriedtomania.com/why-is-bipolar-marriage-help-always-about-the-bipolar-husband-or-wife/comment-page-1#comment-85 Elizabeth Atlas Mon, 01 Nov 2010 16:49:24 +0000 http://www.marriedtomania.com/why-is-bipolar-marriage-help-always-about-the-bipolar-husband-or-wife#comment-85 Well said, Katrine. I think sometimes we get so caught up in the bipolar spouse's dramas and actions that we forget we do have the power to take control of our own thoughts and actions. Well said, Katrine. I think sometimes we get so caught up in the bipolar spouse’s dramas and actions that we forget we do have the power to take control of our own thoughts and actions.

]]> By: Katrine http://www.marriedtomania.com/why-is-bipolar-marriage-help-always-about-the-bipolar-husband-or-wife/comment-page-1#comment-84 Katrine Mon, 01 Nov 2010 09:14:53 +0000 http://www.marriedtomania.com/why-is-bipolar-marriage-help-always-about-the-bipolar-husband-or-wife#comment-84 Changing your point of view can alter the way you approach a situation completely. It's your ideas that trigger your feelings which drive your actions. You cannot control what goes on for you, but you can control how you respond to it! Changing your point of view can alter the way you approach a situation completely. It’s your ideas that trigger your feelings which drive your actions. You cannot control what goes on for you, but you can control how you respond to it!

]]> By: Shara http://www.marriedtomania.com/why-is-bipolar-marriage-help-always-about-the-bipolar-husband-or-wife/comment-page-1#comment-59 Shara Fri, 30 Apr 2010 18:22:06 +0000 http://www.marriedtomania.com/why-is-bipolar-marriage-help-always-about-the-bipolar-husband-or-wife#comment-59 i just found out that my husband is bipolar and i really do believe that i am the one that really sees his mood swings change and all that. I really would like to have some people to talk to dealing with it and help me to understand it and have ideas to help him. i just found out that my husband is bipolar and i really do believe that i am the one that really sees his mood swings change and all that. I really would like to have some people to talk to dealing with it and help me to understand it and have ideas to help him.

]]> By: Elizabeth Atlas http://www.marriedtomania.com/why-is-bipolar-marriage-help-always-about-the-bipolar-husband-or-wife/comment-page-1#comment-31 Elizabeth Atlas Wed, 16 Sep 2009 22:46:34 +0000 http://www.marriedtomania.com/why-is-bipolar-marriage-help-always-about-the-bipolar-husband-or-wife#comment-31 Bill, I agree with you!! And I think most spouses of bipolar husbands or bipolar wives would welcome objective feedback on their decisionmaking regarding their sick spouse. But who is this objective third party? If your spouse is sick, it can't be him or her. Most of the time, we don't want to share these challenges with family and friends--so those truth-tellers are out. The medical establishment can't talk to us because it's a conflict of interest...we're not the patient. So...who should hold us accountable? Unless you're married to a manipulative person, most spouses (well or sick) *want* to do the right thing. It's just hard to know what that is sometimes. Thanks for sharing your perspective on this tricky situation. Bill, I agree with you!! And I think most spouses of bipolar husbands or bipolar wives would welcome objective feedback on their decisionmaking regarding their sick spouse. But who is this objective third party? If your spouse is sick, it can’t be him or her. Most of the time, we don’t want to share these challenges with family and friends–so those truth-tellers are out. The medical establishment can’t talk to us because it’s a conflict of interest…we’re not the patient. So…who should hold us accountable? Unless you’re married to a manipulative person, most spouses (well or sick) *want* to do the right thing. It’s just hard to know what that is sometimes. Thanks for sharing your perspective on this tricky situation.

]]> By: Bill http://www.marriedtomania.com/why-is-bipolar-marriage-help-always-about-the-bipolar-husband-or-wife/comment-page-1#comment-28 Bill Fri, 04 Sep 2009 21:25:24 +0000 http://www.marriedtomania.com/why-is-bipolar-marriage-help-always-about-the-bipolar-husband-or-wife#comment-28 First, thank you for taking the time to write and share your experiences and for all the good people with big hearts helping those of us who need it during trying times. What I've come to realize is, there is little or no responsibility put on the caregiver/family/friend to assess themselves. Do they recognize their own "symptoms" shortcomings, or personal issues? I believe the truth from all parties involved in the healing process of a mental illness is crucial! It appears as though in most cases, a spouse makes claim, therefore it must be true. Just something to consider... Bill First, thank you for taking the time to write and share your experiences and for all the good people with big hearts helping those of us who need it during trying times.

What I’ve come to realize is, there is little or no responsibility put on the caregiver/family/friend to assess themselves. Do they recognize their own “symptoms” shortcomings, or personal issues? I believe the truth from all parties involved in the healing process of a mental illness is crucial!

It appears as though in most cases, a spouse makes claim, therefore it must be true.

Just something to consider…

Bill

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