Book About Bipolar Disorder Husband | Bipolar Disorder Wife
Are you married to a Bipolar Husband or a Bipolar Wife?
Are you involved in a bipolar relationship?
Stop walking on eggshells. Stop doubting yourself and wondering,
“What can I do to make this relationship better..?”
The Chaos Is NOT YOUR FAULT!
Here’s Your Answer Book if
You Are Married To a Bipolar Husband or a Bipolar Wife
Please…Take a moment to find out how you can restore hope about your future. Discover all the answers you’ve been searching for about how to love and help a bipolar husband, bipolar wife or bipolar partner…
Dear Friend and Fellow Spouse of a Bipolar Partner,
Finally, There’s A Bipolar Book for Stressed-Out Spouses
I’m Elizabeth Atlas, author of the new book, “Married To Mania: Jumping the Shark* Without a Seatbelt.” It’s a funny title for a topic that is far from funny…heartbreaking, in fact.
This book is about how to find your footing with a bipolar husband or bipolar wife and preserve your sanity in a marriage or relationship that’s built on quicksand. Your bipolar husband or bipolar wife may make you feel that everyday is a new dawn. Deep down you know nothing in your past has prepared you for what will happen in your bipolar marriage today, tomorrow or next year.
It’s a given: You love your bipolar wife or bipolar husband very much. “Bipolar” is not one of the top 10 adjectives you use to describe the love-of-your-life to other people. “Bipolar Disorder” may not even be in the top 100!
But if you’re like me, “bipolar disorder” is on your mind all the time. Your bipolar radar flashes when you second guess your bipolar husband’s financial decision making. Your bipolar radar arms when your bipolar wife drowns you in love and affection…because you know, very soon, you’ll be hunkered down protecting yourself from a painful verbal assault and threats of divorce.
Many times I diagnosed my own condition as PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). But it wasn’t “Post.” It is ongoing. So I decided to “stop the madness” on my part and learn how to “fish or cut bait.”
I learned how to handle “my problem” of how to be married to a bipolar husband. Then I wrote a book to help other husbands, wives and partners, married to Bipolar Disorder (yes, it does seem that way most of the time!), who are caught in the same love/chaos/trauma drama I was in.
This is the book you’ll read when you’ve already read
the hundreds of other websites, books and newsletters,
attended all the bipolar support groups and workshops and
exhausted the patience of your friends and family
–and you still don’t have answers for YOU
about the best way to be married to a bipolar husband or a bipolar wife.
Let me Repeat: The chaos in your relationship is not your fault.
When you love a bipolar husband or bipolar wife, your relationship is not on a level playing field with other loving relationships or marriages you’ve admired.
The relationship problem-solving skills that you learned from your relationship role models: your parents, your friends–even TV couples like “Lucy and Ricky” don’t work in your marriage. Those relationships–yes, even the fantasy TV storylines (!)–will never have the same roadblocks and heartaches that you tackle every single day of your life with a bipolar husband or bipolar wife.
How much do you REALLY know about Marriage To a Bipolar Spouse?
Even if you’ve read a few books, surfed online and gone to a few support groups, you are no match for your bipolar husband or bipolar wife. In fact, you are at a tremendous disadvantage.
You Are in Bipolar Psychology “Kindergarten”
Your bipolar husband or bipolar wife has a “PhD” in Bipolar Disorder. This “degree” may not help him find a “cure” or steer him toward acceptance of his illness, but he’s been through a lifetime of mental machinations that you will never understand or keep pace with. It’s downright exhausting!
Here Are Just a Few of the Questions My Readers Have Asked Me
About Marriage to a Bipolar Husband or BiPolar Wife (…And My Response!)
“Why do their moods change to where you absolutely do not believe they love you and you wonder whether or not they’re even capable of love?”
IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!“We have raging arguments and we’re not very close. How can I get him to understand and accept that he has a problem and go get help?”
IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!“Nine months after I divorced my bipolar husband, he killed himself by hanging. He was sober and this ‘depressed’ cycle wasn’t different from hundreds of others he’d been through–even when he was off his medication. How could I have known?”
IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!
Think about it:
Haven’t you already done everything you could think of,
plus more, to create a happy marriage to your bipolar spouse?
Your in-laws think you’re an angel; your friends think you’re nuts. You don’t know what to believe anymore but you know something’s broken and needs to be fixed. NOW. TODAY.
The only thing left is to take some of that good lovin’
you’ve been dishing out, and spend it on yourself.
“Married To Mania” Is the Owner’s Manual
On “How To Take Care of You”
When You’re Married To a Bipolar Husband or Bipolar Wife!
My Story…
My husband was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder at age 40, one year before I met him. (He’s now 55.) Prior to that, I had never known anyone with mental illness (who goes around talking about it?) and there was no evidence of it in my family (did you know there’s a genetic component?)
I spent 3 years in denial, 5 years in therapy, 7 years in intense research to “figure this illness out” and 13 years doubting myself and beating myself up, knowing that if I could be a better wife, then…
…You fill in the blank.
If you’re like me, you probably already have. Despite mountains of reading, exhaustive web searches, many support groups and discussions with my husband, I always felt terribly alone in my struggle.
Where were the other husbands and wives of Bipolar spouses??? I never met any. I never read about them. There were only 2 or 3 in my support groups. And they weren’t interested in forming a “band of brothers.” I felt totally isolated and helpless.
Albert Einstein said, “The definition of insanity
is doing the same thing over and over
and expecting different results.”
Al was a very wise man. So I decided to try a new approach. And it worked for me! When I say “worked,” it didn’t solve my husband’s bipolar disorder. But it saved ME!
There is only ONE ANSWER for saving people like us who are married to mania.
I identify and explain all the options in my book. In the “Married To Mania” E-book or printed copy (your choice), I give you a plan to grab back control of your life. You’ll learn concrete ideas for handling unexpected mood swings, uncontrollable outbursts of anger, inevitable guilt and remorse (yours and theirs), and the devastating emotions you’ll have when you realize that the life partner you’ve chosen is no longer the person you married.
Here Are the Facts:
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Think You Can Beat These Odds,
And Stay Married To Your Bipolar Husband or Bipolar Wife
Without any Outside Help????
How’s that Been Working out so Far???
| “Thank you for the book. I just downloaded it, and I know from reading the forward that I have reached a resource I have been unable to find elsewhere for coping for life with my BP wife.I am on page 79 of your book. It’s like looking in a mirror. I’ve never met anyone else going through these same issues-it certainly is encouraging to feel like I’m not the only one in this boat!” M.P., Indiana |
| “The most significant learning that psychotherapists like me receive comes from the personal experiences of those individuals who have lived it. In “Married to Mania,” author Elizabeth Atlas does just that. Her book is rich in conveying the critical issues that real people face when coping with Bipolar Disorder. She provides a much needed perspective plus practical advice, hope and help for spouses coping with a partner’s mental illness. I strongly recommend this book!” –Joanne Wolf Small, M.S.W. |
As much as you may love your bipolar husband or bipolar wife, your future will be seriously altered by having this person in your life. Whether you decide to stay in your relationship, or cut the ties and move on, you must base your decision on facts, not emotions. And that’s exactly what I’ll show you how to do in “Married To Mania.”
How many times have you asked yourself these questions?
- What can I do to make our relationship less stressful?
- Will he ever get better?
- Will she ever be able to stop taking her medicine?
- Why can’t I convince him to trust me?
- Will I ever be able to trust him?
- Why is he so hard on everyone around him who loves him?
- How can I predict when her mood swings will occur?
- How can I protect my children?
- Should I marry my bipolar girlfriend? My manic depressive boyfriend?
- Should I divorce my bipolar husband?
- I love him. Is there any hope for us?
I’ve made ordering “Married To Mania” very simple.
You have 3 choices on how to absorb this new information
in the way that you learn best:
- E-Book in Adobe PDF format (downloadable instantly if you choose this option)
- Hard-Copy Printed and Bound Report
- A Bundle of both
And I have 3 Bonus Gifts for you, too!
BONUS #1: FREE SHIPPING when you purchase the “Married To Mania” Bundle. (The Bundle includes the instant downloadable e-book and the hard-copy printed book will be mailed to you so you can flag pages, highlight important passages and rip out the checklists)
BONUS #2: “The Partner’s Definitive Guide To a Bipolar Disorder Vocabulary” ($29 Value) This is a must-have resource to learn the proper words to identify side effects, medications and episode symptoms so you can talk intelligently with the psychiatrists and mental health professionals. It’s just one weapon in your arsenal to help you combat what I call the “Medical Industrial Complex” who are DECIDEDLY NOT on your side.
BONUS #3: “The Spouse’s Bi Polar Disorder Million Dollar Rolodex,” (Priceless!) a compendium of organizations, publications, articles, websites and books citing all the latest research in psychiatry, psychology and family therapy on Bipolar Disorder. It includes a special section on self-help resources for spouses (not the touchy-feely kind…the real action-plan kind that can help you stay sane and functional and–dare we say it–thrive in your marriage to mania.)
“Married To Mania” lays out more than 15 proven concepts you’ll want to read or listen to over and over again so you can practice new behaviors that I guarantee will make your life more livable–regardless of whether you stay with your bipolar partner or leave him. (I say “him,” but these strategies are for any spouse or significant other: husband or wife, girlfriend or boyfriend of a bipolar partner.)
| “I was looking for ways my son could cope with being married to a bipolar person. This book answered many questions. My son hopes to use some of the suggestions the author names. I’m happy I found this book on the Internet, and I want everyone to read it!” — Ruth, Wyoming |
My book, “Married To Mania” and the bipolar information it covers
is for anyone who cares so much about a sick bipolar husband or bipolar wife
that they’re putting their own mental health and well-being at risk.
If you’re reading this website, that means YOU! So…
Or call me personally (and confidentially) to order by phone at +1-314-485-4350
100% MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE IF NOT COMPLETELY SATISFIEDI have been where you are now. Searching for answers but never really finding the ones that will help you understand or deal realistically with the situation of marriage or a relationship to someone with bipolar disorder. I know you don’t want to spend more time and money if this book turns out to be another dead-end that makes you feel even more alone and un-helped. So I offer you this guarantee. If for any reason “Married To Mania” is not what you were looking for, if it does not meet your standards for quality information, if it does not help you lighten the emotional load you’re carrying being married to a bipolar husband or bipolar wife or if it doesn’t assist you in making tough decisions, just let me know, and I’ll give you a 100% refund on your purchase. I will not ask you to explain yourself to justify your refund. (You do not need anymore stress in your life! I am here to bring enlightenment, not add to your burden.) With a simple request, I’ll refund 100% of your purchase price for up to 1 year after your purchase date. I promise. How can I offer such a generous return policy? Because hundreds of people in horrible emotional pain have already read my book, and I’ve only issued a handful of refunds. (I don’t ask why.) And I have received the most appreciative emails from readers of this book (along with lots of tears and very sad stories.) So I know my information has helped husbands, wives, partners, parents, fiancees who were exactly where I was being married to a bipolar husband without any resources. Why wait one second more? Why continue to suffer in silence when the vital information you want is so easily accessible as soon as you place your order? |
* The term “jump the shark” refers to that defining moment when you know that your relationship has reached its peak. It’s the instant you know–from now on–it’s all down hill and out of your control, and things will never be the same. The phrase actually comes from knowing the episode when your favorite TV show went bad, but the concept fits perfectly for potentially doomed relationships, too.
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I have been married to my Bi-Polar husband for almost 17 years and it has been in the last 2 years that I have exasperated myself and given up to the point that I just dont care about him. I have been abused physically and mentally, left and come back, lost my family because of him, his thinks Im great. Im now 62 aand he is almost 50 and my health is totally failing with so many medical diagnosis but he shows no sense of caring. He sleeps 20 hours a day and the doctor doesnt seem to worry. I feel like I am in a sinking liferaft(he weighs 356lbs) trying to bail out the water with a spoon and just dont know whether to dive into the water or just drown. Those are my thoughts and would love your book but both of us survive on SSD and cant afford even all my RX…I make sure I get his though. Just wanted you to know you sound like your book will help many.
Laraine Moore in NC.
Laraine, you sound worn out. Please try to take care of yourself and put yourself first as often as you can, especially when it comes to your own health.
Sure wish I had the money to order this I am at my wits end, I love and hate my bipolar husband, have lost all my family do to his addictions and swings, He also has issues with spending money as soon as he gets it. Divorce is nearly impossible as I have no way to provide for myself and three kids, one with autism.
Melissa, I know that feeling well, unfortunately. Try making a list of all the things you can do. It sounds like you’ve been in your marriage awhile, so there’s no quick fix for getting to a “happy place”–no matter if you won the lottery tomorrow (ie., he’ll still be the father of your children). Once you have your list, put a timeline to it. In other words, how long will each item take you to do? Then see which ones you can start on now. Even if you don’t totally resolve all your problems, you’ll feel better because you’ll feel like you have some control of your situation. – Good luck! – Elizabeth
I’m looking for the book on Amazon via Kindle, is it available that way?
What a great suggestion. I do not have the book Kindle-ready, but I will look into it. Thank you. – E
I have been married to my husband for 13 years and lived with him for 5 years before we were married. My husband had several affairs and left me and my children 3 times while we were together also he would get drunk and because he would become mean I would tell him not to drink. He would want to fight and when I would try to keep him from drinking he would get into the car and go buy more to drink. Being married I went with him to his home state right before he retired and right before katrina hit he told me he was leaving us because his family got him to do it. My child and I became homeless and I was embrassed to let my family know so I stayed in a shelter and endure things I could have never imagined would happen. I dont drink, smoke, do drugs look at pornography but because of all the abuse over the years I have alot of anxiety stress and some anger due to the things Ive endured. Why cant some of these problems be due to hormonal problems and the above I gave and not bi polar. People are quick to make people out to be sick or crazy my husband and my 2 children tell me I have a problem other than the natural problems that come with the economy, debt, community and surroundings and mainly my spouse over the years. Not everyone is bi-polar stop drugging people up and dulling them instead of understanding and listening to why they feel or act they way they do. Maybe some serious family or marriage counseling to find out the cause instead of covering up the symtoms with drugs or label someone that is not crazy or sick but just mentally stressed. Even the strongest people have their weakest points in time. Everyone in Hollywood is addicted to prescription drugs that is the way they cope with their crazy life but in the end those drugs will killed them and even the strongest minds in hollywood have and do go crazy from alchol and drugs.
I am the one who suffers from this awlful illness they call BiPolar. I remember being 5 years old knealing on the kitchen floor with my mom holding me while she cry uncontrolably while my dad leaving for good and the back door slamming. Wow! What that does to a child. My mom had me and my brother in her teens. My dad would make promises to come and see us, so we would wait by the window and sometimes he would come and others nothing! I felt disappointment, confusion, dispair. What was wrong with me. My parents were good parents. They worked hard. Taught us to be nice, accept others, look past the wrongs that they did unto others. My mom remarried a man with two girls and he eventually adopted us. He drank, his ex caused lots chaos and she would tell her two daughters to act up when they came to our house ( I felt bad for my little step sister), his business put my mom in debt, he treated my brother like idk just no time or loving. It all sucked! Yeah there were good times. We had a cute little house that my mom made into a loving home the best that she could. I remember I was always on an up and down emotional roller-coster. Never knowing what was going to happenin when I got home. If it was gonna be a calm night or yelling. Was I gonna have to be the one to calm my dad while my mom emotionally shut down. Would I have to be the one who sat in my brother room after he had been screamed at by my dad or hit and sit by his bed and talk to him for hours while he said nothing just to let him know someone cared. School was so hard for me. I felt stupid there. I was so quiet, shy and too scared to ever ask for help. I would sometimes just sit there and so many times my notebooks were made of my daily lists of what I was going to do when i got home. I would label the top of the page then list -homework-dust-vacuum-peel carrots etc. You get the picture. I guess I needed stability and among all the chaos in my life and my head I found it in lists and organizing. I found that when I did those 2 things I could feel and function better. I guess that was my way of surviving for many years.
At 15, I met a boy and fell madly in love well I thought.He was a nice person and had his own issues as we all do and in his own childhood there was not much love shown there. I had no self esteem. At 20 got pregnant with him and had a little girl. He had cheated on me a few times before and I on him once cause I was hurt that he had done it to me not because I was on a bipolar high. Even knowing that he had cheated I still stayed cause I felt I deserved no better. I finally left and moved back home now parents are divorcing finally. At 21 due to so much stress and on Good Friday the darkess day of the year some say I tried to commit suicide. It was one turning point in my life on my road to many of lifes lessons.
I thank GOD everyday that I survived.
I wish I could of seen and felt back then as a small child that I was special.
Ive been married for 14years now to a man who I know loves me but he has been the one who has been bringing out my illness. I finally realized that after searching and wondering what was wrong with me. Why am I not good enough for anyone. I can’t make anyone happy. How come no one hears ME. He keeps telling me to tell him what I need and it falls on deaf ears. He is a workaholic! The only way he pays attention is if he takes me away to some vacation or out to dinner. Everything is always on his terms. Everyone feels love in a different way. He feels love by spending time with me. I feel loved when I am heard or when projects that were started get done. I have supported him when he chose to quit his job and started his business and now another business. I trusted him. We have 3 children. A son with ADD,anxiety & Oppositional Definant. A daughter with ADHD,anxiety and Oppositional and auditory processing issues. Our oldest daughter with a weight issue. Not once has he picked up a book, suggested going to support groups, gone to the gym, followed thru on plans. I the BIPOLAR MOTHER have had to search countless books, websites, doctors and I have tried so many different things and have changed myself so many different times that the stress and the chaos of the arguing has triggered the ups and downs so many times I can’t even count.
I just thank GOD that he has been the stronger one in all of this because in this thing we call life of BiPolar Illiness I have found GOD, strength, faith, that its not my fault, I’m not a failure, I am somebody, that the choices we make do have to be thought out, Im a good mom, this journey has taught me so very much and I understand why I had to go thru all that i did and it has made me a better person, always go thru life with youe eyes wide open, cherish the little things. Just because someone is Bipolar does not mean they are incapable. Its funny how I am the bipolar one in this marriage and I am the one for the past 15yrs that has been doing the searching to make it better and I hope he is ready to finally be my support system that he says.
Lisa, I acknowledge your pain over so many years. But you keep trying and learning, and that’s what counts. We only feel worthless when we don’t have purpose in our life. Sounds like your bipolar allows you to be very high functioning to take care of your family. You’re lucky. One insight I can give you is that often someone with bipolar is able to process their surroundings and situations about 10X faster than the rest of us “well” people. You may be interpreting that as a lack of attention to you. I know sometimes I had to walk away or go away because my husband would just overwhelm me with his stream of ideas and thoughts. My poor ole brain couldn’t handle so much input. We all have *things.*
Oh, this sounds so familiar. I am married to a BiPolar man (forty years). The illness runs in his family, although he is the only one diagnosed correctly. My husband initially, when diagnosed, was taking his medication correctly, seeing his counselor and psychiatrist regularly, and we seemed to be making progress. However, it seems lately that everything is going wrong. Our children and other family are not supportive and my husband has chased away most family and many friends, leaving me without a support network. I have stood by him and until recently, been happy to do so. However, I have become tired of “giving” and now seeing my husband “excuse” his behaviors as beyond his control. He can be very charming for others, but take everything out on me. I just cannot do this all alone. It is really exhausting to be blamed, attacked, alone, and so tired all the time. I have tried having my own counselor, but it is very difficult to disclose the ups and downs of my days and then go back and face them after the emotional impact of talking about how difficult they are. I need happiness and friends and I so miss that guy I married. I know he will never return as he was; that he is somewhere in my husband, but I feel I am losing ME. I do not like who I am becoming. I am upset my family has left me to deal with such a large burden all alone, and yet, who could blame them?
My husband started with depression 5 yrs ago and while he has and continues to be on medication, his moods are up and down and all over the place. I don’t know how to live with him anymore. How do I survive and keep my sanity. I feel like I am the one losing her mind now. I feel like every thing I say is wrong, and honestly it’s as if he hates me, yet he tells me over and over that he loves me. I am losing all feeling for him though. I don’t like him or the way he is. I hate thinking this is how the rest of our marriage is going to be. THAT is depressing! We have been married 23 years and have 2 teenage sons who both resent their father for the way he has been. I know we shouldn’t feel this way, because from what everyone says, he cannot help it, but he doesn’t treat others the way he does us. His family do not even see the depression, that’s how good at faking it he is. Why does he do this? I’m gonna order this book and I hope it really gives me some insight, because I am tired of walking on eggshells and never knowing which man is walking through the door at the end of the day.
Janette, Ahhh, yes, the I’m-the-one-losing-my-mind-walking-on-eggshells futility dance. Know it well. Look, you’ve already got 23 years in. I believe a little behavior-modification training (for you and the boys) will help you immensely. Hope you do buy the book; I’ve got the step-by-step plan in there. – E